Don't forget to love your parents
WE ARE fully occupied with work and deadlines, busy pursuing financial success and living our lives to the fullest.
We aspire to climb corporate ladders or excel in examinations and, hence, we increasingly spend a significant amount of time on our work or studies to achieve our goals.
Goals enrich our lives.
In fact, it is right to give our best in any roles that we undertake, whether we are students, salaried employees or employers. However, along this journey, some of us (including myself) may have unintentionally sacrificed the time to spend with loved ones, especially our parents. We take for granted that they will always be there.
WHAT IS FILIAL PIETY
IN OUR MODERN SOCIETY?
Everybody's view on filial piety is different and unique.
In my own definition, filial piety is unconditionally loving, taking care and providing for our parents. Why love? Isn't it innate to love our parents?
Yes, but in the midst of competition for our limited time and attention, sometimes we forget to love them or put loving them at a higher priority.
Love is a powerful force.
We all have heard of stories of how it provided individuals with faith and strength to endure immense pain and overcome unimaginable challenges in life. There are many other examples you may have heard of in your daily life.
Our parents spent a huge part of their lives protecting and nurturing us when we were young and vulnerable. They held our little hands and walked with us patiently when we took our first steps.
They guided us lovingly through the different life stages - infancy, childhood, adolescence and adulthood.
Yet, we get angry and frustrated with them over the slightest things. How many times have we ignored our parents when they asked caringly about our day?
How often do we show our annoyance at them for their gentle reminders and scold them for being forgetful?
How frequently do we treat strangers better than our parents? We take them for granted when they need us most during their twilight years.
WHAT DO OUR PARENTS ACTUALLY WANT FROM US?
Providing more money for them? Spending more time with them? Achieving academic excellence?
I finally know what a parent would want from the child after becoming one.
These wishes can be expressed explicitly or implicitly and vary with individuals.
Nevertheless, they are not rocket science nor anything unachievable for most of us.
I would think that parents would earnestly wish their children to be healthy, look after themselves well, earn a honest living when they grow up and continually love their fathers and mothers while the parents slowly fade away with each passing day.
If you are keen to know more about
filial piety, join the writer and
four other guests on July 17, 1pm to 2.30pm, at the HDB Hub.
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