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    Aug 12, 2013

    Men want women to pay for dates, too

    FIRST dates are rife with problems. Where will you go? What if conversation stalls?

    One of the touchiest topics surrounding that first date is this: Who pays?

    Once upon a time, it was unquestionably the guy who footed the bill. But now, two out of three men think women should help pay for a date, although most feel guilty about accepting their money, a US study suggests.

    Of the 64 per cent wanting to split the bill, 44 per cent said they'd even ditch a love interest who never doled out any dollars.

    That said, 76 per cent of men felt bad about pocketing payments from possible partners.

    The findings are based on research led by psychologist David Frederick of Chapman University in California. He oversaw a team that combed through data from more than 17,000 people to see how changing gender norms have impacted on time-honoured notions of courtship.

    Eighty-four per cent of men, and 58 per cent of women, reported that men pay for most dating expenses, even after they've been going steady for a while.

    Fifty-seven per cent of women claimed they had offered to pay for a date - although 39 per cent confessed they hoped the man would reject their offer to chip in.

    The vast majority of participants, both male and female, said they shared dating expenses once they began seeing someone exclusively after six months.

    Dr Frederick, whose previous research has focused on body image, said the study was motivated by a desire "to understand why some gendered practices are more resistant to change than others".