Eight ways to boost your self-confidence
BELIEVE you can, and you are halfway there.
That's the oft-quoted wisdom from Theodore Roosevelt. Sure, but the words come from someone who held one of the most powerful positions in the world - president of the United States - you say. Your problem, you feel, is that you are not made of the same steel.
Boosting self-confidence need not require hours of poring over self-help manuals. Try standing tall, and you will automatically feel more confident. Here are other eight other tips to boost your mental mettle.
1. LOOK AT YOUR INNER CIRCLE
It's often been said that you are the sum total of the five people who are closest to you. Are the people in your inner circle positive or negative?
Reduce the number of Debbie Downers in your life, and include more people with a positive mindset and attitude. This helps to improve your self-confidence.
2. ALWAYS BE PREPARED
If you fail to plan, you have planned to fail.
If you have an important meeting, or even a job interview, invest time to prepare. The more prepared you are for your meeting, the higher your self-confidence. When you have done everything that you can possibly do to prepare, you remove the fear - or at least reduce it.
3. UPDATE YOUR SKILLS
There are times when you do not feel confident in your abilities because you have identified gaps in your skills.
If that's the case, take the time to acquire the skill. Learn everything you can about the field in which you work. Once you have removed the skill gap, your self-confidence will soar.
4. STAY POSITIVE
Do not accept failure as final - use it as feedback to study the lessons learnt, so you will do better next time.
Practise shutting down the negative voices, because there is a solution to every problem you can face. Worrying will get you nowhere. When you know that you can deal with any situation, the negative voices lose their power, and you boost your self-confidence.
5. SLOW DOWN YOUR SPEECH
Most people speak too quickly, so others often miss some of what they are saying. Speak slower and enunciate your words. People with power, influence and authority speak slower because they believe that they have something important to say.
Just slowing down the speed at which you speak signals that you are worth listening to, and that will boost your self-confidence.
6. BUILD ON YOUR SUCCESSES
Set small goals that you can achieve. When you achieve them, you can set goals that are slightly bigger, and you can keep on doing that because success builds on other successes.
Also, step outside your comfort zone by doing things you think you cannot do. You will feel good with the successes that you are building on, which does wonders for your self-confidence.
7. CREATE A 'PICK-ME-UP' LIST
People can be really tough on themselves, and you are often much smarter than you give yourself credit for. Set aside some time to create a list of your accomplishments over the past three years. You may be very surprised by what you discover.
Whenever you are feeling down, take a look at your list, and that will immediately make you feel more confident.
8. ACCEPT NON-PERFECTION
Cut yourself some slack and quit trying to be perfect. When you quit trying to be perfect, you remove self-doubt, which increases your confidence level.
This article was contributed by career consultancy Right Management and recruitment company ManpowerGroup Singapore.