Oct 11, 2016

    Choose to live fully instead of living with regret

    Dear Troubleshooter,

    I'M a female student in my 20s who's completed my job hunt. There were two companies that unofficially

    offered me jobs and I chose one.

    Now, I'm sorry I didn't choose

    the other.

    The offers were for the same profession. The company I turned

    down is well-known and could

    have presented me with a wider

    variety of tasks.

    But I wasn't comfortable with them relocating employees all over the country - not knowing how long it would be before I came back to Tokyo.

    Consequently, I decided on the

    other company.

    There is another reason: I felt

    like resisting people who told me

    to choose the bigger firm.

    There is no problem with the company I chose. It's just that they

    fall short in the volume of business

    they do and its potential, compared with the other company.

    That is why I am full of regret.

    I don't know why I turned the

    other one down; it would have

    been great to be assigned to an unfamiliar place and live there.

    I feel so hollow now, with no energy left in me. How can I work confidently and positively for the company I chose?

    A, TOKYO

    Dear Ms A,

    I, too, often regret choices I've made.

    When waiting in line for the cashier at the supermarket, I start thinking that I should have got in the other line, where the people are moving faster.

    I get annoyed over such small decisions, thinking I've wasted

    too much time.

    You can't get away from being annoyed with the very choice you

    just made when you're living in a society where there are so many options to choose from.

    In the end, the way we deal with

    the unhappy feeling we have after making a "wrong" choice becomes

    a very important aspect of life.

    I'm sure you know of the saying: "Don't cry over spilt milk."

    Your decision to choose the company you did was right.

    If you had chosen the other one, you would have regretted doing so too.

    Just remember that you made

    your decision by instinct.

    My recommendation is to

    start taking care of what lies

    before you now.

    Concentrate on completing your graduation thesis, or plan for a great trip. Get in touch with old friends

    you haven't met for a long time.

    Doing whatever you can do now should eventually bring back

    your confidence.