Choose to live fully instead of living with regret
I'M a female student in my 20s who's completed my job hunt. There were two companies that unofficially
offered me jobs and I chose one.
Now, I'm sorry I didn't choose
The offers were for the same profession. The company I turned
down is well-known and could
have presented me with a wider
variety of tasks.
But I wasn't comfortable with them relocating employees all over the country - not knowing how long it would be before I came back to Tokyo.
Consequently, I decided on the
There is another reason: I felt
like resisting people who told me
to choose the bigger firm.
There is no problem with the company I chose. It's just that they
fall short in the volume of business
they do and its potential, compared with the other company.
That is why I am full of regret.
I don't know why I turned the
other one down; it would have
been great to be assigned to an unfamiliar place and live there.
I feel so hollow now, with no energy left in me. How can I work confidently and positively for the company I chose?
Dear Ms A,
I, too, often regret choices I've made.
When waiting in line for the cashier at the supermarket, I start thinking that I should have got in the other line, where the people are moving faster.
I get annoyed over such small decisions, thinking I've wasted
too much time.
You can't get away from being annoyed with the very choice you
just made when you're living in a society where there are so many options to choose from.
In the end, the way we deal with
the unhappy feeling we have after making a "wrong" choice becomes
a very important aspect of life.
I'm sure you know of the saying: "Don't cry over spilt milk."
Your decision to choose the company you did was right.
If you had chosen the other one, you would have regretted doing so too.
Just remember that you made
your decision by instinct.
My recommendation is to
start taking care of what lies
before you now.
Concentrate on completing your graduation thesis, or plan for a great trip. Get in touch with old friends
you haven't met for a long time.
Doing whatever you can do now should eventually bring back
MASAHIRO YAMADA, PROFESSOR
THE YOMIURI SHIMBUN/
ASIA NEWS NETWORK