9 office sins to steer clear of
WE HAVE all heard of (or seen first-hand) people doing some pretty crazy things at work.
Truth is, you do not have to throw a chair through a window or quit in the middle of a presentation to cause irreparable damage to your career.
No matter how talented you are or what you have accomplished, certain behaviour will instantly change the way people see you and forever cast you in a negative light.
Here are nine of the most notorious forms of behaviour that you should avoid at all costs:
The name says it all. Stabbing your colleagues in the back, intentionally or otherwise, is a huge source of strife in the workplace. One of the most frequent forms of backstabbing is complaining to the boss about your colleague when you could solve the problem between the two of you in private.
People typically do this in an attempt to avoid conflict, but end up creating even more conflict when the victim feels the blade. Any time you make someone look bad in the eyes of their colleagues, it feels like a stab in the back, regardless of your intentions.
People make themselves look terrible when they get carried away with gossiping about other people. Wallowing in talk of other people's misdeeds or misfortunes may end up hurting their feelings if the gossip finds its way to them, but gossiping will make you look negative and spiteful every time, guaranteed.
TAKING CREDIT FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S WORK
We have all experienced that stomach-dropping feeling that happens when you discover that someone has stolen your idea. Taking credit for someone else's work, no matter how small, creates the impression that you have not accomplished anything significant on your own. Stealing credit also shows that you have zero regard for your team and your working relationships.
My company provides 360-degree feedback and executive coaching, and we have come across far too many instances of people throwing things, screaming, making people cry and other telltale signs of an emotional hijacking.
An emotional hijacking demonstrates low emotional intelligence, and it is an easy way to get fired. As soon as you show that level of instability, people will question whether you are trustworthy and capable of keeping it together when it counts.
Exploding at anyone, regardless of how much they might "deserve it", turns a huge amount of negative attention your way. You will be labelled as unstable, unapproachable and intimidating. Controlling your emotions keeps you in the driver's seat. When you are able to control your emotions around someone who wrongs you, he ends up looking bad instead of you.
ANNOUNCING THAT YOU HATE YOUR JOB
The last thing anyone wants to hear at work is someone complaining about how much they hate their job. Doing so labels you as a negative person and brings down the morale of the group. Bosses are quick to catch on to naysayers who drag down morale, and they know that there are always enthusiastic replacements waiting just around the corner.
When players hit a home run and start gloating as they run the bases, it is safe to assume that they have not hit many home runs. If they hit a home run and simply run the bases, it conveys a business-as-usual mentality, which is far more intimidating to the other team.
Accomplishing great things without bragging about them demonstrates the same strong mentality - it shows people that succeeding is not unusual for you.
So many lies begin with good intentions - people want to protect themselves or someone else - but lies have a tendency to grow and spread until they are discovered, and once everyone knows that you have lied, there is no taking it back.
Getting caught up in a lie, no matter how small, is exhausting and hard on your self-esteem. You have to be authentic if you want to be happy with who you are.
EATING SMELLY FOOD
Unless you happen to work on a ship, your colleagues are going to mind if you make the entire place smell like day-old fish. The general rule of thumb when it comes to food at work is: Anything with an odour that might waft beyond the kitchen door should be left at home.
It might seem like a minor thing, but eating smelly food is inconsiderate and distracting - and so easily avoidable. When something that creates discomfort for other people can be so easily avoided but isn't, it tends to build resentment quickly. Your pungent lunch tells everyone that you just do not care about them, even if you do.
So much of work revolves around the people you meet and the connections you make. Dropping an atomic bomb on any professional relationship is a major mistake.
One of TalentSmart's clients is a large chain of coffee shops. They have a relatively high turnover, so when a barista quits, it is usually not taken personally. However, one barista managed to burn every single bridge she had in a single day.
The surprising thing is that she did not yell or do anything extreme. All she did was leave.
Without warning, she showed up on her Monday shift, told the store manager she was quitting (she had found a better-paying job somewhere else) and walked out. The result, of course, was that every shift that she was scheduled to work for the next two weeks had to be done with one less person, as her move provided no time to find a replacement.
She most likely saw her actions as being offensive only to the manager (whom she did not like), but in reality, she created two miserable weeks for everyone who worked at the shop.
She ruined her otherwise positive connections with every single one of her colleagues.
Such behaviour may sound extreme and highly inconsiderate, but it has a tendency to sneak up on you. A gentle reminder is a great way to avoid them completely.
THE STAR/ASIA NEWS NETWORK
The writer is co-author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and co-founder of TalentSmart, a provider of emotional intelligence tests and training.